Manners

The husband and I have always been sticklers for manners.

My Mum always reinforced to my siblings and myself how important it is to be polite, respectful. The husband's parents never really did as far as he can remember. Nevertheless, long before we even considered trying to conceive with Harry, in fact very soon after we met, we both agreed that it was one of the key things that we would teach any possible future children.

Even in our day-to-day lives with each other we always say "Please" and "Thank you", unless of course we are mid-row then some rather less pleasing language may crop up. Despite generally not being swearers either!

A couple of nights ago I lost my temper with Harry. It had been a long, full on stressful day. I know that is no excuse yet for some reason I feel I have to justify it to you all. *points at you all*

So anyway, when I shouted at told Harry to "Just put your pajamas on for crying out loud, it's late!" he sweetly retorted with "But Mummy you didn't say please...". I think that is One nil to Harry?

Fast forward to today and we decided to treat Harry. He has asked for flashing trainers for an age (also happens to now need new ones anyway; is only boys who grow and scuff SO quickly?!), he needs new nursery shoes (see previous question), he has also asked for Hot Wheels (first thing he goes to when we visit my Auntie's house). So off we went to The Mall (sat on the top deck of the bus of course!). We purchased all requested items, plus a KFC lunch and some cheap toy. We had a really lovely afternoon, together as a family, smiling and laughing. Some thing we have done a lot of this last week which I've really appreciated. It's no secret I have been struggling in recent weeks, well pretty much since Christmas/New Year.

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As my good friend Jen of Instinctive Mum said in her recent post, sometimes time out is needed.

Yet this isn't about today; not really. Every time we bought Harry some thing, he said "Thank you Mummy, Thank you Daddy!". When we got off each bus, he said "Thank you driver." With each request was followed with a "Please" and a couple of total strangers remarked on his manners.

Later, as we had cuddles before bed time he said "Mummy... " *thinks here comes a delay tactic* "Thank you very much for a very lovely day."

I am not ashamed to admit, it made me beam with pride. The whole manners thing.

Manners. They may only be words. Small words at that but they mean so much.

All the Small Things - MummyNeverSleeps

34 thoughts on “Manners

  1. Oh he is so cute! I have been caught out by mine for not saying please before too! I am a stickler for please and thank yous, but not so bothered about elbows on the table! Syd is pretty good at it- he even says 'pardon me' when he burps now, and 'bless you' when people sneeze. He does however think using 'please' is a guarentee of getting something....he is learning the hard way that it isnt always enough!
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      We don't worry so much about elbows either. Another one is queuing or waiting your turn. Harry also used to think "Please" was a guarantee! Ha ha x

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  2. Well done for teaching manners, mine are teens now and people comment on this more times than anything, how great are their manners. it also means they focus on other peoples good deeds more and with the manners comes listening and caring! Had to chuckle that he called you on yours, been there myself. It feels cheeky but it is so right!
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  3. Awww, Harry!
    Please can I borrow him in the hope that if Beans sees another child being so polite she might just decide to throw in the odd please and thank you sometimes,,,And also just because he is absolutely adorable!
    So glad you've had a lovely week too xx
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  4. We're both very strict with manners as well and sometimes find ourselves adding a please or thank you on to the end of an adult's sentence! We quickly have to apologise and explain it's because we're drilling good manners in to our children and it's now a habit!
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  5. He is delightful. Kids know exactly what to say to melt your heart. I have to admit even mine melted when I read it 🙂 Manners are very important, and we try to teach the kids to be polite and respectful and treat them in the same way. But it is still ok to shout sometimes 🙂
    Sounds like an excellent day out and just what you needed for a little pick-me-up 🙂
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  6. I love that he's so polite, I hate it when people haven't had please and thank you's drilled into them when they were younger, unnecessarily rude...people always smile when I tell them to have a good day when they're behind a counter...manners never hurt anyone!

    (p.s. he is so cute, I just want to cuddle him)
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  7. My parents instilled in me that manners don't cost anything and I passed that down to my children and often get comments about how polite they are (outside the house). It isn't just boys that ruin their new shoes either!
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