Sleep. I can never have too much of it. For as long as I can remember I have been able to nap simply because I am bored and have nothing to do and been able to lie in past midday given the chance. Clearly, once Harry arrived the amount of sleep I was able to have vastly reduced. I think I am one of very few people who actually did sleep when baby slept, although that didn't stop me feeling exhausted.
During growth spurts, the husband would sleep on the sofa and I would bring Harry into our bed, following safe co-sleeping guidelines, it was the only way I would get the rest I so desperately needed.
Fast forward a few years and, for the most part, Harry goes to bed easily and sleeps 11-12 hours each night. Whilst we were living in the hostel he would wake up between 4-5 am until 6.30/7 am and come into my bed with me, before going back to sleep and I was fine with that and this carried on after we moved into the flat.
Around November, things changed. Suddenly Harry stopped going back to sleep and would demand one of us get up with him and do his breakfast. Any time between 4-5 am. I hoped it was a short stage. Except it continued all through December and January. Something simply had to change. Not just for me on a selfish level but for Harry too; he was starting to ask to go to bed at 5 pm and whilst that might sound great, in reality it is simply too early and we would have battles with dinner time due to his being tired.
So I sent Fi from Childcare is Fun an email. If you haven't seen Fi's blog, you really should; packed with tips and things to do with children. She also offers a free personalised advice service AND has The Baby Bedtime Book being released in May; she is one busy but lovely lady! Anyway, Fi then sent me a few basic questions about our routine etc and came back with a plan. I also bought a Gro Clock to use alongside the advice and created a star chart for Harry.
Harry used to go to sleep using an old smart phone to watch You Tube clips of Chuggington on. Yes I know; it's a habit that started in the hostel that we then became too scared to break. The first two nights of taking it away were pretty awful but I sat with him when he cried and followed Fi's gentle methods. By the third night he was quite happy to go to bed without it and stayed in his own room until the sun came up on the clock. Within a week we had managed to change the wake up time from 6 am to 7 am!
With Harry sleeping so much better, it's time to work on me. Despite often going to bed early (around 10 pm) my sleep is disturbed; I still wake up pretty tired. I know I have a lot on my mind with worrying about what the next steps are for me in terms of surgery. I will find out what my neurosurgeon has in mind on Monday, so not too long to wait really.
In the meantime, do you use any sleep aids? What do you find helps you get to sleep when you have stresses?