There is a saying among parents which is, at times, harder to put into practice than carry through. "Pick your battles".
As I said last week, we are having a few issues with Harry of late. He has developed a bit of an attitude and thanks to my lovely readers, I have realised that this is entirely normal, however difficult.
Since last week, I have taken the "Pick your battles" saying on board once more. I have chosen what things are worth fighting over.
Puts his shoes on the wrong feet? Don't battle, eventually he will get uncomfortable and want to change them so they are on the correct ones.
Has a tantrum over teeth brushing? Battle, particularly as last week at the dentist we were told he showing signs of decay already!
Won't eat his meals? Don't battle, put it on the side and can come back to it until it's the next snack/meal time as appropriate.
Wants to wear weather inappropriate clothing? Go ahead, knock yourself out, it just means I have to take a jumper/t-shirt/coat as appropriate.
The trouble with deciding which battles are worth taking on is when you have a difference of opinion to your partner. The husband, for example, will take to spoon-feeding Harry at dinner time if he is being difficult, something I am wholly against as I figure if he is hungry, he will eat. It's not like he doesn't know how to feed himself. If I am honest, it is something which has caused tension between the husband and myself but that must surely be something Harry can pick up on, so with much reluctance, I am letting it go.
Over the past week both the husband and I have had one-to-one time with Harry and for the last couple of days things have mostly been a little better but of course we still have battles. Manners are very important to the me and the husband and is something we are absolutely united on. I mean things like saying please and thank you, waiting your turn rather than no elbows on the dinner table. When we are out and about people often comment on how well-mannered and happy Harry is and yet at home, rudeness seems to have increased. For example "Get me a biscuit NOW!" just is not acceptable in my book and, rightly or wrongly IS something I know the husband and I agree on.
I want to know, what do you stand firm on? What battles do you choose to fight and what do you let slide?